Had my first smear test and it was the most terrifying & painful thing I’ve ever done
So I was scared leading up to this and all jittery and I almost burst into tears as soon as I sat down in the nurse’s office, because the idea of anyone being near my genitals is the scariest idea ever to me. And I was trying really hard to be calm and I went through with it all but when she tried the speculum it hurt SO much!! But then she stopped and I thought it was done and finished with and my heart just dropped when she said she’d have to use the longer speculum, and it hurt and then it was absolutely the most agonising thing I’ve ever experienced apart from appendicitis. She stopped because my muscles were spasming so much and I was literally wailing into my hands and really wanted to call it off but I let her continue and it was just honestly the worst thing ever, the terror I was feeling and the pain combined was hellish. :((( She said the pain was probably because I haven’t had anything up there before apart from tampons and I’d read that there could be a bit of pain, but I didn’t know it could be so so agonising. I couldn’t stop crying. It bled a lot and is still a bit twingey hours later. I hope this is okay to post here, I’m still feeling shaken up and I don’t know, I was hoping maybe I could relate to someone. Anyone else had it like that? It hurt so bad that in moment of madness I actually thought not being a virgin would be worth it to make the pain less, but no, absolutely not, but that’s just how much pain I was in at the time. I don’t know what I would have done if my mum wasn’t there. Sorry again, I feel like I’m being dramatic but it was honestly really a nightmare. I’m genuinely terrified for the future ones even if they’re years ahead.
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Edit: I mentioned that she stopped and I let her continue, but I feel like I should mention it again because I did explicitly tell her that it was okay for her to carry on, even if I was proper wailing when she did resume. I don’t know if anything could have been done to make it better or not. Thanks so much everyone for your empathy and understanding
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So I was scared leading up to this and all jittery and I almost burst into tears as soon as I sat down in the nurse’s office, because the idea of anyone being near my genitals is the scariest idea ever to me. And I was trying really hard to be calm and I went through with it all but when she tried the speculum it hurt SO much!! But then she stopped and I thought it was done and finished with and my heart just dropped when she said she’d have to use the longer speculum, and it hurt and then it was absolutely the most agonising thing I’ve ever experienced apart from appendicitis. She stopped because my muscles were spasming so much and I was literally wailing into my hands and really wanted to call it off but I let her continue and it was just honestly the worst thing ever, the terror I was feeling and the pain combined was hellish. :((( She said the pain was probably because I haven’t had anything up there before apart from tampons and I’d read that there could be a bit of pain, but I didn’t know it could be so so agonising. I couldn’t stop crying. It bled a lot and is still a bit twingey hours later. I hope this is okay to post here, I’m still feeling shaken up and I don’t know, I was hoping maybe I could relate to someone. Anyone else had it like that? It hurt so bad that in moment of madness I actually thought not being a virgin would be worth it to make the pain less, but no, absolutely not, but that’s just how much pain I was in at the time. I don’t know what I would have done if my mum wasn’t there. Sorry again, I feel like I’m being dramatic but it was honestly really a nightmare. I’m genuinely terrified for the future ones even if they’re years ahead.
:(
Edit: I mentioned that she stopped and I let her continue, but I feel like I should mention it again because I did explicitly tell her that it was okay for her to carry on, even if I was proper wailing when she did resume. I don’t know if anything could have been done to make it better or not. Thanks so much everyone for your empathy and understanding
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This one is a little personal but I hope there are people who'll understand this one, but seriously crying in the arms of your crush is an S tier experience.
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Am i the only one that sometimes watches spicy content for the plot?
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how tf do i even respond
was talking about being ace to my sister who is definitely NOT and she said that being ace must be considered a “biological mistake” because we are meant to reproduce. i’ve known i was ace for nearing a decade after trying not to be and that just hit me like a brick. how in the name of glob does someone respond to that
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was talking about being ace to my sister who is definitely NOT and she said that being ace must be considered a “biological mistake” because we are meant to reproduce. i’ve known i was ace for nearing a decade after trying not to be and that just hit me like a brick. how in the name of glob does someone respond to that
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I used to think I wasn't asexual then I looked up the meaning, gotta love google search! 🖤🩶🤍💜
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