My husband has become a vim peasant - please advise

When I met my husband 10 yrs ago, he was everything I ever wanted. We met on a freenode IRC channel. He was a Gentoo and Linux-from-scratch dual-booter who could install both systems with his eyes closed. We used to have long, romantic conversations well past midnight about tabs vs spaces and open source. Our first fight ever was about MIT vs GPL licensing. On our first date, we shared our tiling manager config files with each other (this was the first time I truly felt love for a man).

However, lately he’s changed into a husk of the man he used to be. He migrated to Linux Mint, because, and I quote, he “just wants to get work done” and he “no longer has time to fiddle with \[his\] system”. Then, he started using GNOME for the same reason. This was already very suspicious. I mean, if he truly just wanted to start using a full DE, he could have at least picked KDE, right? Even Xfce I’d have been ok with.

Then, the other day, our relationship hit a breaking point. Here I was, working on my 2012 NixOS thinkpad, and hubby calls me over to his office. He said he “wanted to show me something”. I sit down on his chair, and you can imagine my terror as he pulls up vim on his terminal. He had a weird smile on his face, as if something had taken him over. He spent the next few mins “showing off” a variety of vim tricks he’d just learned. I had to turn my face to the side so he wouldn’t see the tears drying on my cheeks. Let me be clear: This was **NOT** the man I married.

Our relationship has had its ups and downs, but I never imagined my husband would stoop so low as to become a vim peasant. I don’t know what to do. Part me says I should just start divorce proceedings and get it over with, but the other part can’t help but wonder if perhaps my husband is being afflicted by some serious, undiagnosed mental illness.

**Please advise reddit, my whole life is in shambles and I don’t know what to do**

1.4k upvotes
/r/emacs
2024 May 04
https://redd.it/1ck8w2g
by @r_emacs
#programming #emacs #editor #ide #gnu

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 69 subscribers.

[Epic Games] (Game) STAR WARS™ Battlefront™ II: Celebration Edition
https://www.epicgames.com/store/en-US/product/star-wars-battlefront-2

3.2k upvotes
/r/FreeGameFindings
2021 Jan 14
https://redd.it/kx8eup
by @r_freegamefindings
#game #free #gaming

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 600 subscribers.

My furry artwork at LA buds stop

12.4k upvotes
/r/furry
2026 Mar 13
https://redd.it/1rssjn9
by @r_furry
#pic #furry

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 800 subscribers.

Astronaut Mark Kelly once smuggled a full gorilla suit on board the International Space Station. He didn't tell anyone about it. One day, without anyone knowing, he put it on.

201.3k upvotes
/r/Damnthatsinteresting
2022 Jan 09
https://redd.it/rzv4hw
by @r_Damnthatsinteresting
#reddit #channel #daily

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 4444 subscribers.

VLC has now reached 3 billions downloads and still no toolbar, adware, or other crapware bundled.
https://twitter.com/etixxx/status/1083510421565440005

20.4k upvotes
/r/linux
2019 Jan 11
https://redd.it/aeufh6
by @r_linux
#pc

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 800 subscribers.

Please do not make Kratom a Schedule I Substance, a WhiteHouse.gov petition.
https://wh.gov/iLACs

1.4k upvotes
/r/kratom
2016 Aug 30
https://redd.it/50btm2
by @r_kratom
#kratom #opioids #medicine

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 10 subscribers.

MW2 vs MWII (Not my OC)

19.6k upvotes
/r/ModernWarfareII
2023 Jan 18
https://redd.it/10f5rhd
by @r_MWII
#games #shooting #fps

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 3 subscribers.

Not surprised about the color 😼

104.8k upvotes
/r/OneOrangeBraincell
2026 Mar 15
https://redd.it/1ru8jwu
by @r_oneorangebraincell
#cats #orangecat #memes #humor

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 10 subscribers.

Which waters to avoid by region

134.7k upvotes
/r/coolguides
2021 Jan 15
https://redd.it/kxlyl4
by @coolguides
#guide #reference #pics

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 4000 subscribers.

The wheels on the new Mac Pro don't have locks. They cost 550$.

123.5k upvotes
/r/CrappyDesign
2020 Feb 26
https://redd.it/f9w94p
by @r_crappydesign
#crappy #baddesign

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 700 subscribers.

This kiddo is going places.

3.9k upvotes
/r/AnimeMirchi
2026 Mar 26
https://redd.it/1s43uwt
by @AnimeHindiMemes
#meme #hindi #funny

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 666 subscribers.

4 Years of Japanese BAAHUBALI 😁

3.8k upvotes
/r/AnimeMirchi
2023 May 25
https://redd.it/13re98i
by @AnimeHindiMemes
#meme #hindi #funny

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 700 subscribers.

Amul Peanut Butter at ₹20

1.9k upvotes
/r/dealsforindia
2025 Apr 27
https://redd.it/1k91p0t
by @r_dealsforindia
#deals #india #discounts #shopping #sales

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 3 subscribers.

just gonna leave it here

29.0k upvotes
/r/IndianDankMemes
2021 Sep 20
https://redd.it/prnev7
by @r_indianmemes
#indian #memes #indianmemes

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 420 subscribers.

Don't Let Reddit Kill 3rd Party Apps!
/r/Save3rdPartyApps/comments/13yh0jf/dont_let_reddit_kill_3rd_party_apps/

576 upvotes
/r/PrivacyGuides
2023 Jun 03
https://redd.it/13z5rda
by @PrivacyGuides
#privacytools #privacy #security #community

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 900 subscribers.

I built a WireGuard GUI using GPUI and Go (Windows & Linux)

215 upvotes
/r/WireGuard
2026 Mar 14
https://redd.it/1rtd31y
by @r_wireguard
#vpn #networking #security

🏆 Great achievement!
💪 Milestone of 420 subscribers.