socialization

"just bc someone gets vulnerable and wants your support, doesnt mean they lack awareness or coping strategies. sometimes they just need an outside perspective to validate a feeling or experience, see a blind spot, or feel not so alone in the process"

society, boundaries, socialization

"dont kneecap your sentences"

recently i read some piece of wisdom about something like that, i will copypaste it here just because

[about the phrase "is it/was it that bad?"]

"there is no such thing as "that" bad or "that" good. It's not something to be compared or that somehow things have to be "bad enough". You were used and abused for quite a while, and that is a fact regardless of "how bad" it was

So don't think of it in terms of "that bad" or some arbitrary bar of badness

That is part of the conditioning for abuse

Thinking that things have to reach a certain arbitrary point to "count"

Of course that arbitrary point is manipulated by the abuser

To make you think you're not crossing it"

short story time:

like two days ago, my localboomer took this thing out of a drawer surrounded by books, showed me like "hehe its swollen" and proceeded to squeeze it between his fingers to show me. i asked him to not do that and to at least put it in something ceramic and less flammable. the battery is now in a yoda mug in another bookshelf.

so yea.

also i found a bag of very old shit, like a 56k modem, a parallel+serial Y cable, some floppy disk drive unopened ribbon cables, etc