mental health, socialization

"triggers are like allergies"

self compassion, socialization, boundaries

"disappoint other people with your no; dont disappoint yourself with a yes you'll later resent"

abuse, self compassion

"dismissing or not seeing red flags does not mean you deserved to be harmed"

socialization, abuse, self compassion

"please dont beat yourself up for not picking up on red flags sooner. you did your best at the time and ultimately its not your fault someone was treating you badly"

emotions, trauma, self compassion

"emotional flashbacks often dont have a visual component. pay attention to suddenly feeling small, powerless, helpless-- they're signs you might've been triggered and yanked into an emotional flashback"

trauma, self compassion

"forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time"

depression, neurodivergency, self compassion

"one of the hardest things to learn as a depressed former gifted kid™ is that half assed is better than nothing"

impostor syndrome, anxiety, socialization, self compassion

"what i know ; what i think others know || reality ; what others know"

socialization

"just bc someone gets vulnerable and wants your support, doesnt mean they lack awareness or coping strategies. sometimes they just need an outside perspective to validate a feeling or experience, see a blind spot, or feel not so alone in the process"

society, boundaries, socialization

"dont kneecap your sentences"

recently i read some piece of wisdom about something like that, i will copypaste it here just because

[about the phrase "is it/was it that bad?"]

"there is no such thing as "that" bad or "that" good. It's not something to be compared or that somehow things have to be "bad enough". You were used and abused for quite a while, and that is a fact regardless of "how bad" it was

So don't think of it in terms of "that bad" or some arbitrary bar of badness

That is part of the conditioning for abuse

Thinking that things have to reach a certain arbitrary point to "count"

Of course that arbitrary point is manipulated by the abuser

To make you think you're not crossing it"

short story time:

like two days ago, my localboomer took this thing out of a drawer surrounded by books, showed me like "hehe its swollen" and proceeded to squeeze it between his fingers to show me. i asked him to not do that and to at least put it in something ceramic and less flammable. the battery is now in a yoda mug in another bookshelf.

so yea.

also i found a bag of very old shit, like a 56k modem, a parallel+serial Y cable, some floppy disk drive unopened ribbon cables, etc