Just read an article lamenting the fact that more and more people are using ChatGPT for relationship advice, and to help them with their dating app profiles and their replies in the initial stages of talking to a new person.

It was pointed out in the article that men are more likely to use AI than women for dating app profiles and replies.

I mean... What do they expect? Who has to do 95-99% of the initiation, the escalation, the attempting to give a good account of themselves, and the risking of rejection in courtship? It isn't women.

Women for the most part have no idea how much goes into it. I mean, consider Bumble as an example. Bumble is a dating app whose unique selling point was literally the fact that women messaged first, thus cutting out a load of ignored and unwanted interactions initiated by men. But it had to scrap that feature last year because women complained that it was too much work and too much pressure - basically just to send a message saying "Hi".

I mean, for the record, men generally doing the work is how it should be naturally.

But stuff like that article grates when, in the world we live in today, there are very few women without various traits that are significantly off-putting. Related to that but in addition to it is the fact that most of them don't seem to have a good understanding of how to be feminine and decent, and why it matters (or should matter). And in general, a lot of women seem to be utterly full of themselves, oblivious to their own flaws, and often profoundly obnoxious and entitled, and loads of them have personalities and vocabularies which seem to be made up almost entirely from a selection of insufferable social media and popular culture trends which give them the most poisonous beliefs and ideas, terrible role models, stupid, annoying interests, and even stupid, annoying ways of speaking.

So when it's like that and you see them whingeing about men using ChatGPT more than women do to help them while getting to know someone new, you sort of think, "Look at the state of you lot. You've no idea how lucky you are that men are still bothering to do anything at all to try and court you, and here you are moaning about how they go about it".

For the record, I've got no dog in this fight. I've never used AI to help me talk to anyone, I've only been properly interested in about three women in the past 15 years, and given that I'm 40 and single, it's neither here nor there to me personally, because that ship has almost certainly sailed in my case.

It's the more the fact that, had there been more decent women around, I might have found more than three of them genuinely appealing in the space of 15 years, and who knows, it might even have ended up working out with one of them.

I should caveat that by saying that despite being far from an oil painting, and so not exactly a chooser, I've always had a high threshold for really being interested in women in that way, so I'm probably not typical of most men.

But as women get more and more underwhelming and insufferable, the number of men who, by some sort of inevitable default, end up like I've always been (i.e. underwhelmed and irritated), has to be growing.

Turns out me and Shabana Mahmood have got something in common.

Congratulations to Scotland, who have just booked their place at next summer's World Cup in spectacular fashion against Denmark. 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

Just come out of the bank in Rugeley again and while I was in there, 'Constant Craving' by k.d. lang came on.

Thank God for (partially) Jewish lesbians.

Constant Kvetching

The original zinger:

Constant craving (...for alcohol)

🤔

In reference to Anne Marie Waters, noted lesbian and fan of the sauce, on a TASOB episode.

Incapable of entertaining fucking mumbo jumbo.

Snark aside, I started to find that more and more women will ask you your star sign and then start talking about it. Tiresome bollocks.

I don't go out of my way to match with women on apps as of the past six months or so, but it was happening more often with ones I spoke to or met up with from there, and some woman (decent looking but fairly drunk) who cracked onto me while I was abroad recently started asking me about it.

Their heads are full of bloody magic.

By the way, there must be something about an egregiously loud shirt, because this is what I was wearing when that woman (who was from Durham) who was trying to line me up when I was abroad.

I once wore a shirt only slightly less loud to a second date, and without getting into graphic detail, that really couldn't have gone any better.

Mate of mine just made a good point about a woman saying she liked "spontaneous trips" on her dating app profile.

I won't get into what happens when the "spontaneous trip" turns out to be one that didn't match the exact idea she had in her head but didn't know, e.g. - "take me on spontaneous a trip some time!". "Alright"... One week later. "Pack a bag, we're going to Norway tomorrow for four days." "What?!" "You said you like spontaneous trips." "No not like that!"

Setting that aside, the point is, a woman - and they all drone on about "spontaneity" - likes the idea of a "spontaneous trip" that is anything but spontaneous for the bloke putting all the work into planning it and then paying for it all. Ignorance is bliss.

I'm saying this as a bloke who's in his element planning anything like that. I mean, I really am, I love anything like that. But it's rare for women to properly appreciate the value of that sort of thing. To a lot of them, these are things that just happen because they deserve it. Everything is cheap.

Also, in an age in which never settling down and having a family not only doesn't carry any sort of stigma for a woman but is actually encouraged, some of them start to see a man not as a necessity for a meaningful life, but as a living, breathing accessory to provide titilation, novelty, and experiences, and most of the time, to pick up the bill for it all.