PRONOUNS MEANING

#PRONOUNS : Pronouns are essential in the way we communicate with one another. The importance of pronoun communication, however, is crucial. Pronouns are words that people use to refer to others, pronouns are also gender expression. Yet, it is important to remember that some people may use different pronouns in different situations, and some may not use pronouns at all.

WHY ARE PRONOUNS IMPORTANT

We use pronouns as a way to identify or refer to someone. Using the wrong pronouns can be offensive or even harmful. Ignoring a person’s pronouns can also imply that people who are under the transgender umbrellaㅡsuch as those who are transgender, nonbinary, or gender non-conforming, do not exist. So next time, do not make any assumptions about someone’s pronouns, just ask!

HOW TO BE RESPECTFUL TOWARD SOMEONE’S PRONOUNS

#PRONOUNS : There are things that we’ve discussed about some manners that we should do to respect and validate people’s choices about their pronouns.

A. As we’ve said beforehand, the importance of pronoun communication is crucial, so please make sure you do NOT use pronouns for the sake of aesthetic nor joke. Some people may, until now, feel struggle to accept themself because of their pronouns. Some people may, until now, feel confused to think what’s their actual pronouns that can make them comfortable and acceptable. So please, do not ever make a joke over pronouns.

B. If you happen meet a stranger, or a friend, or an old buddy, or anyone that you didn’t know what’s their pronouns yet. Rather than you keep assuming what’s their pronouns and address them based on their biologycal sex, you can refer them by using gender neutral pronouns such as they/them/theirs/themself.

C. Another thing you can do to help people to start normalizing the importance of using pronouns is; adding your pronouns on your email, social media, business card, etc. Some of you may feel familiar with Carrd.CO. It’s a website where you can make your digital ID card. But not all people can make or purchase them, right? If your problem was merely “how to write down my pronouns?” Here you go! You can write your nickname, your pronouns, and stuff here: Pronouny.XYZ. Fret nothing, it also allows you to update your nickname or pronouns anytime.

HOW TO WRITE PRONOUNS

#PRONOUNS : Please learn and use it correctly, do not make it overuse and look dumb as anyone may take it as a joke.

RIGHT:

SHE/HER.
SHE!HER.
SHE%HER.
SHE-HER.
SHE, HER.
SHE & HER.

WRONG:

5H3☆H3R.
ShE/HEr!!
S/HER.
SH/ER.

W/N: Using any icon rather than slash (/) is allowed, as long as you do not mean it as a joke or aesthetic purpose nor are you overusing symbols on your pronouns that can somewhat harm the one who has dyslexia. You can also write your pronouns with lowercase.

GENDER AND SEX.

#PRONOUNS : People may be asking whats the difference between sex and gender so please do put your attention on this!

Gender is a social construct and merely denotes the social and cultural role of sex within a given community. Gender itself is divided into three; gender identity, gender expression, and sexual characteristic.

I. Gender expression is a characteristic which is shown from how does someone behave, act, and show their appereance.

II. Gender identity is personal, it’s the way people perceive themselves with a certain gender.

III. “Sex” or what you called as biologycal sex or natal sex refers to the physical differences between people who are male, female, or intersex. There’s also a condition named transexual. A person typically has their sex assigned at birth based on physiological characteristics, including their genitalia and chromosome composition.

LIST OF PRONOUNS.

COMMON PRONOUNS

She/Her/Her/Hers/Herself
He/Him/His/His/Himself
They/Them/Their/Theirs/Themself

In English, grammatically pronouns are neither feminine, masculine, or neutral like French or Arabic are. However, people grew up to assigning people with ‘She/Her’ or ‘He/Him’ based on whether they ‘look’ feminine or masculine. For example, people see cisgender people like women are associated with She/Her, and the men use He/Him. This categorization is a social construct incorporated into languages.

When, in fact, pronouns are not inherently equal sex. What someone uses to identify themselves is not a pointer towards their gender that they were born with. For the sake of someone’s personal convenience, people that join the community (mostly genderqueers) prefer to use ‘They/Them’ as a pronoun for gender neutrality.

Aside from that, even though a person may fit the look of how generally used definition that one of these pronouns may perceived, it doesn’t mean that they want us to identify them that way. For example, a feminine person who uses ‘She/Her’ pronouns, personally may not want to be identified this way. It’s best for us to ask them about how they identify themselves.

She is eating the cake.
He is eating the cake.
They are eating the cake.

The ‘They’ can be identified as a group of people or a singular genderqueer person.

For "They/Them" reflexive pronouns, you can use “themself” or “themselves”. Some people will have a preference for using either “themself” or “themselves.” For example;

They can use the toaster themself.
They only have themselves to blame.

W/N: To simplify the explanations, we’ll use ‘themself’ as an example.

MULTIPLE PRONOUNS

A person could use more than one set of pronouns. For example:
• She/They
• He/They
• She/He/They
• She/(Any neo pronouns)
• (..or any preferred ones)

Let’s take this case as an example;
You see a “He/They” pronouns on someone’s profile. How and which pronouns should you use?

—Use He/They interchangeably. You can use “He” or “They” in a sentence by alternating them whatever you like. If you were in doubt, you can ask the person which one they preferred to be the most mentioned. Because however, some people also prefer to just use one pronoun per sentence to avoid any confusion. Usually, some people with multiple pronouns preferred to be called by the first-mentioned ones, but some other don’t mind about it.

He’s eating a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. They would get sick since they were allergic to peanuts.

W/N: Use one of he/his/him/himself or they/them/their/themself/themselves instead of using both in a sentence to prevent any misunderstanding.

NEO PRONOUNS

Neo pronouns are a set of any third-person pronouns that are not she, he, they or it. It is valid and has been used commonly by transgender and GNC (Gender Nonconformity) communities for a long time, but you can still use it if you weren’t apart of them. It is basically intended to make the pronouns not implied to significant gender.

Neo pronouns are used in place of someone’s name, which means their names don’t carry their gender (like the assumption that a feminine name belongs only to people with “she/her” pronouns, etc).

Common neo pronouns:
(using he/him/his/his/himself format)

xe/xem/xyr/xyrs/xemself
fae/faer/faer/faers/faerself
ve/ver/vis/vis/verself
ae/aer/aer/aers/aerself
zie/hir/hir/hirs/hirself
per/per/pers/pers/perself
e/em/eir/eirs/emself

Xe doesn’t wake up when xyr alarm goes on.
Disclaimer: It’s okay if you felt confused or messed up the words, just simply correct yourself and move on. Don’t make a big deal out of it, since it’s still a new concept for many!

Complete version (will be updated by the creator): https://neopronounlist.carrd.co/

PEOPLE THAT DON’T WANT TO BE REFERRED WITH ANY KINDS OF PRONOUNS

There are also people who do not want to position themselves in a third point of view with any pronouns, basically the opposite of any pronouns.

Simply use their name in the context of any sentence.

Anne’s hand is burning when Anne touched the mug.

TRANSLATE IN INDONESIAN VERSION:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1mQBH_5eOnpcnJKA-8URPx1WFfYU8PeHS/view?usp=drivesdk

CREDIT:

i. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/gender-pronouns#how-to-be-inclusive

ii. https://twitter.com/twosexed/status/1424713048527310854?s=19

iii. https://pkbi-diy.info/pengertian-dan-perbedaan-gender-dengan-seks/

iv. https://www.sehatq.com/artikel/kenali-gender-dysphoria-kondisi-medis-yang-masih-jarang-didengar/amp?__twitter_impression=true

v. https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/politics/a24109933/transgender-women-are-women-transgender-men-are-men/

vi. https://grammar.yourdictionary.com/grammar/pronouns/using-they-them-pronouns-for-a-singular-person.html

vii. https://neurohealthah.com/blog/types-of-dyslexia/

👤 Jadi penulisan kaya she%her tuh boleh ya? Tp kenapa banyak yg salty?
👤 Bantu jawab sender bawah, She%Her tuh gaboleh ya. Orang pengidap diseleksia susah buat bacanya.
👤 bukannya yg boleh itu cmn she/her, She/Her, SHE/HER? cmiiw
👤 i dont think that we’re allowed to use she%her… its hard to read for those who has disabilities

thank you for the questions you guys!! begini, yaaa. people with dyslexia memang udah punya kesulitan membaca (ada tingkatannya, probably) to begin with. jadii, mau pemisah pronoun kamu itu pakai / - % dsb itu tetap aja mereka mengalami “kesusahan” dalam membaca karena /keadaan/ mereka memang kayak gitu?? yang bakalan somehow hurt them itu kalau kamu nulisnya sh3/h£r?! atau pakai fancy fonts she/her.

👤 sender ke 2, emg yg bener bukan misgendering but feel invalidated, dismissed, alienated. ngawur yg blg misgendering
👤 yang di bawah gw, t-tapi itu tulisannya pronouns is gender expression kok..
👤 pronouns isn't gender but when we mispronouncing their pronouns, it's called misgendering, it's contradictive. why?

tmn-tmn yuk baca dulu a whole texts that my and i friend have written 😔😟 PRONOUNS ARE GENDER IDENTITY. which means, GENDER IS INCLUDING PRONOUNS. pronouns itu jati diri gender kalian gitu loh guys bisa baca selengkapnya di https://t.iss.one/ListCWTW/74 yeah. so that’s also why if you do mispronouncing other’s pronouns it’d be called as misgendering karenaaa pronouns memang termasuk gender??@?@ and we didn’t close the chance of yours telling that your feeling is addressed as invalidated, dismissed, alienated, or whatever you name it. you choose!

👤 maksud dari pronouns ≠ sex gimana ya? huhu masih gak ngerti D:
👤 menurutku pronouns ≠ sex lebih masuk akal daripada pronouns ≠ gender

100 buat sender bawah!! that’s what we actually have said kaan semalam, pronoun is gender expression and pronoun is not sex. buat sender ataas, sex di sini maksudnya itu what’s inside your pants, what’s between your legs. sedangkan pronouns itu lebih ke ... ekspresi gender kamu. semisal sex kamu itu cowo, tapi kamu anggap gender kamu itu lebih feminine dan kamu lebih nyaman dianggap perempuan tuh enggak pa-pa. you’re valid! even when you’re not doing any kinds of injury for transexual, you can still address yourself as a girl.