In marriage one of the principal ways in which you grown holy is through the defects of your spouse, one time a Nun wrote to Saint John of the Cross. “I could become a very holy nun if it wasn't for the rest of the nuns in the convent” The same thing actually applies in the context of marriage, I'm sure many people think “I could be much holier if it wasn't for my spouse or children or circumstances whatever”. St. John of the Cross gives the perfect answer he writes back, he says

“It's quite the contrary it's the defects of the other nuns which become the moments of your growing in virtue and holiness through suffering”

The honest and saintly loving spouse tries to become similar to the other spouse, since the one who loves tends to take the likeness of the beloved creature, so the marriage well understood, is mutual elevation, because there is no one completely perfidious and just improve each one point by taking example the good of the other to climb the ladder of mutual sanctity.

The virtuous wife, I would say the wife who, even after the marriage, retains that "virginal" in the acts, in the words, in the abandonment of love, can lead the husband to an elevation from sense to feeling, so that the groom strips from lust and it truly becomes a single "who" with the bride he treats with regard to which one treats a part of himself and rightly that it is, because the woman is "bone of her bones and flesh of her flesh"